Yes. It is a more a Grinch to Christmas than to the idea
I love the specificity of your comments. That you will
start on your sketch after you take out the garbage.
I hardly think someone who collects money to make sure the
office workers at a community college received useful holiday
recognition is a grinch.
It is important to give to the people who need it. Which
could include a bank president. It is not important to
give to people who don't, just to follow form.
But I honestly don't know anyone who doesn't like getting a present,
even if it is a jar of honey or a box of tea.
Me, I like to open things. I get very excited unwrapping paper.
It almost doesn't matter what is under the wrapping.
Sunday night, I gave P a chef's apron which had all sorts of
pastas imprinted on it and an orange. The orange was wrapped
in the apron, the apron was wrapped in paper.
She was most excited about the apron. I was most excited about
the orange. And about giving her something and about how excited
she was to get it.
So there you go.
Kim: Just in time.
Were you watching me on my Web cam? I am ready to start my
drawing...as soon as I take out the garbage. I did just now
a sketch of
The sketches I'm
doing lately I erase and then draw on top of them...but
first I do a high resolution scan of them, so I could print
I have a new philosophy, though not original. It is called
one day at a
time. I decided that tomorrow would be my last day as dean.
Then tomorrow night I'll decide about the next day, etc.
It is very liberating.
I don't give many
presents. My family never got into it, and I'm kind of a
the Christmas grinch. In
fact, I have
that Linda sewed "Grinch" on it for me. (Okay,
I'll add the grinch to the drawing.)
I'm glad there are people like you who like to give presents.
You must make a lot of people happy.
I did take our three
secretaries to lunch today. They enjoyed that. And I collected
money from the entire dept.
the office workers... I guess I"m not a total grinch,
just a mostly grinch. My mom always said that every day
and that we get what we need.
I hope you are faring well with all of the end of the school
madness and then the impending holidays on top of that.
I am not a thing person. I dont want a lot of things.
At least relatively
speaking, compared to many people of my age and background
But I love to give things to other people.
As I imagine you are, I am pretty turned off by the commercialism
of the holidays and the relentless marketing.
Taking this occasion to say thank you or express appreciation
because it is a time of the year that much of the world ritualizes,
is another matter.
I tend to get things for people all year long, as I see something
and feel like it would speak to a particular someone. Then,
I either give it to
them on a special occasion, or on no occasion.
So I started last week, going over my list, wrapping
things. I've been
playing Santa all week. And the more people I give to,
the more people I think of that I want to give to. It is
fun and makes me feel almost giddy. I want to give things
People that I know and people that I don't.
Today, I wrapped and mailed a book to a bank president who
helpful to us in the past. He was not helpful to us this
year. But no
matter, I saw this book and thought it might speak to him
and into the
mail it went.
I don't know what I find more meaningful, passing on
something that I
really like, like when I gave Laurie in my office a beautiful
of mine because i knew she liked red. Or buying something
fresh and new.
It's all good.
And then there is the fact that people are nice
to each other and wish
each other a "Merry Christmas" at this time
of the year. I like that,
Some of my non Christian friends are offended or perhaps
frustrated by the relentless Christian assumptions.
Me, I don't care. I used to. I used to be very aware
of my outsider
status and get tired of the dominant culture.
I don't know if you are aware of this but I wrote a short
"Silent Night" about this very subject. It
was published in a book
called, "Nice Jewish Girls: Growing Up in America" and
was later turned into a short film. (Kim:
I didn't know you had done this.)
It is about a young Jewish girl who gets so tired of being
shut out of the prevailing culture that she tries to pass
at her Irish Catholic
boyfriend's family Christmas party.
Like much of my work, it doesn't matter if the circumstances
are literal, the emotional core is true. And so it is based
on real life.
I am no less aware of my outsider status as a Jew but these
days, my thoughts go more towards how nice it is that people
are saying hello to others they don't know. That they are wishing
them some version of well.
And then I wish we could live in Christmas all the time. Or
at least until
Wed, DEC 21, 2005